When I was a child, I did not understand what was happening to me. Unlike my three brothers, who were attracted to classmates from school or the club – or looked longingly at some pop singer of the time (in those lovable ’80s) – I I liked a classmate. But I never dared to tell him. Is that he was also my friend and I was afraid of losing his friendship.
Already in adolescence, the one who moved my passions was Ricky Martin, with long hair and riding a motorcycle, from which he got off to shake his hips. Madonna caught my attention for her transgressive attitude and for speaking openly about sexuality in years when that was not so common. But erotically, she did nothing for me.
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She didn’t know what to name what she was experiencing, or why she felt attracted to other boys. There was only room for questions. Why is this happening to me? doWhy am I different from my brothers? ya most guys? Will it be a stage? Or a disease? Will I be able to heal myself? Maybe I’ll find a good woman to lead me on the right path, she thought.
It took many years to find the explanation for such an enigma. Of course! It was the care bears! But how did I not realize it before?
Seeing those little bears that fought against evil, with the power of the rainbow, on a daily basis could not produce anything other than a gay person. Or maybe what made me gay was Mazinger Z, with that Aphrodite A that shot her breasts like missiles. Or in one of those, the repeated mouth kisses that Bugs Bunny gave to Elmer Grouch, or the flute-like voice of the copper boy of the galactic falcons.
Our environments were overwhelmingly heterosexual and yet LGBT+ people have always existed.
Or maybe not. maybe just human sexuality is expressed in various ways – some more frequent than others – and what we see, hear and learn have nothing to do with it. Perhaps sexual orientation is something that just happens and we feel. That is not imposed, transmitted or “indoctrinated”.
After all, if seeing certain models of sexuality transformed who we are, the whole society would be heterosexual. Or did Snow White have a girlfriend? Or was Gulliver marrying a Lilliputian? Nope.
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References in stories, cartoons, novels and even our own environments have always been overwhelmingly straight. And yet LGBT+ people have always existed. With more or less visibility we have been and are part of all times and all societies. Even those in which it is intended to censor us and erase us.
This debate, which perhaps in our surroundings sounds extemporaneous, has gained currency in recent weeks (yes, just in the LGBT+ Pride month) because of the ban he suffered buzz lightyear movie in more than 15 countries in the Middle East and Asia.
The prohibition was argued in the appearance of a lesbian couple in the plot. They – the best friends of one of the protagonists – are not only married, but commit the audacity to kiss, spreading lesbian vibes and, surely, promoting hordes of lesbians in the new generations.
Well, for the peace of mind of restless people, that will not happen. What will happen is that if some of the girls or boys who see the film are gays or lesbians, will be able to see themselves reflected in a big screen story, something very rare for our generations.
And in that reflection they will understand that they are not rare or rare, that anyone has the right to love and live their sexuality freely, and that there is no condemnation to unhappiness in what “happens to them”. In short, this representation will contribute to building happier childhoods and, therefore, happier and more fulfilling adolescence and adulthood.
Bonus track: on Disney’s decision not to cut the controversial scene
Unlike other occasions, in which the film studios or television production companies “cut” the questioned scenes so that the films could be shown in the censor countries, on this occasion The Walt Disney Company stood up and preferred to preserve the artistic and social fact giving up what would surely be huge profits in markets with large populations.
Corporate decisions like this contribute to the fact that, despite attempts to put us back in the closet, we are stronger and more visible every day. Because although they want to censor us and erase us, we will never return to the closet again.